The most significant of my conversations with anyone have always happened over a cup of coffee. And below are some of the recent ones that have provoked my thoughts - hence sharing them with you :-)
A friend of mine was having a coffee conversation with me a couple of days ago and made a statement that struck me - "A good marriage needs a solid financial foundation". I sat there thinking if this was really true.I do see so many marriages around me go through the rough when a financial angle is thrown in to the mix of issues that every couple usually has to deal with!
Another scenario - different people, more coffee...interesting conversation...agreed the outcome could have been better :-)
So, there is this distant relative who is a bully - capable of talking crap to people older and younger than himself. So, he has a feast day writing some of the non-sense to this side of the world. If that was the crux of the discussion - No, it wasn't to be. The in-laws and the husband leave the poor girl who becomes an unwilling target to defend herself at all times. Nothing new there either. The story went on to conquer other angels leaving me wondering what does a marriage really entail?
How important is it to verbalize those unsaid expectations? Do they really matter?
Another conversation...more coffee...another friend...
Story is told - all is well that ends well. Leaves me thinking again - why do we always take the liberty of judging others? Is it even needed? Don't we have anything better to do with our own lives?
Life will go on and so will I :-)
Thoughts, friends, coffee - my constant companions. What are your's ???
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"... we have to deal with humans as humans. We cannot teach people to withhold judgement; judgements are embedded in the way we view objects."
-- Nassim Taleb
The point is that, it is incorrect to assume that noticing X happens and then judging X happens, and so one could notice X but not subsequently judge X.
However, understanding X happens according to what is described as a Spinozan model, where X is first noticed and judged simultaneously. Subsequently, X may be judged differently upon encountering significantly powerful counters.
thanks for sharing Unawoken - will reflect on this.
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