The Overloaded Feb 14th!

I got a call from a friend this evening asking me "Hey, what are you doing tomorrow?"

I thought it was the usual what are you doing this weekend question. I said nothing special. And she goes "C'mmon it's the Valentines Day!".

Oh! I thought. And, so...? what does it mean to me?

What am I supposed to do? And what is expected of me - as a wife, as a mom, as a friend and whatever else?

I wasn't born in a household where we celebrated this. I didn't grow up among friends whose families celebrated this festival. Nor grew up exchanging Red Roses!

Yes, only after we went to college was when we girls wore Red one year and collected roses. That was in the final year of our engineering course! It was cute in a weird way :-)

BTW, I wasn't the girl who got the maximum roses - I actually took it only from one guy and later married him! Oh! do I get an award for that? Nah :-)

All of that background, and here I'm today! What now? Am I supposed to wear Red again and look forwards to the flowers? Am I supposed to flutter my eyelids with a coy smile at the guy in my house? And bite a rose between my teeth ;-) No - I don't need to. He thinks I'm the begin all and end all for him anyway. Nothing else matters to him. Okay, that's what he says anyway :-) We don't investigate and dig into each other's thoughts too much - it's an arrangement that best suits us both for all the right reasons!

Do I tell my little one that I love her? Why only today - I love her every single day of the year. So, nothing new there either :-)

My friends? Hmmm...I love them too always.

My family - whose doesn't love their family? Very common - so why specially the day?

Red Roses, candied strawberries, fake seduction, pouting for attention or the exposed curves - all fall into the category of frivolous behavior for me! I hear sirens wailing "insecure!!!" in my mind when I get to be audience :-)

Who needs all of that when you have the real thing - a real warm glow in your heart? the natural blush on your cheeks, and a racing heart beat at the very sight of...

Okay, landing back on Mother Earth...

As I drove home today after all these thoughts, I decided to call my friend I talk to every evening. I realized - Duh! No phone! I had left it at home :-(

There was absolute silence in the car. Nothing to do and no one to talk to. Just me and my thoughts!

Suddenly there were a thousand reasons to call so many people - oh, I had to tell him that, tell her this, and everything else...but no phone! It felt as if I had gone dumb and numb!

It was then that it struck me - these are the people I'm surrounded with, these are people I rely on, these are people that need me, these are people I care for and the other way round too - people I can't live without! And I take them for granted every single day! I yell at them, get angry, get irritated, run away from them, hide from them and everything else, except tell them that they are special to me!

Maybe that's why there is a special day to think about it! Think about our loved ones and tell them that they are special to us! We work well with tasks - don't we? Everything needs to be scheduled in! And, maybe this is a way to get that done too :-)

That's it then!

What if I don't get another chance to say this - so I want to do it now...

I want to take a moment today to tell everyone I have ever met, have be-friended, have spent a moment thinking about or have crossed paths with - I want to tell you that you are a wonderful human being, and that I love you - and love all of you!

Be good!

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Related History
In the third century after Christ, Valentine was the bishop of Terni (Italy). He performed weddings for couples who were not allowed to get married. They may not have been allowed to get married because the parents did not agree with the connection or because the bridegroom was a soldier or a slave, so the marriage was forbidden. Valentine gave to the married pairs flowers from his garden. That's why flowers play a very important role on Valentine's Day. This did not please the emperor. On February 14, 269 AD, Valentin was beheaded because of his Christian faith.